Rejection makes your life better !

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Isha Dhingra
Wed, 07/29/2020 - 21:41
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As an extension of our positivity , many of us have been "indoctrinated" with the belief that we should try to be as inherently accepting and affirmative as possible. This is a cornerstone of many of the so-called positive thinking books : open yourself up to opportunities ., Be accepting , say yes to everything and everyone , and so on.

BUT WE NEED TO REJECT SOMETHING.

if nothing is better or more desirable than anything else, then we are empty and our life is meaningless . We are without values and therefore live our life without any purpose .

The avoidance of rejection is often sold to us as a way to make ourselves feel better. But avoiding rejection gives us short term pleasure by making us rudderless and directionless in the long term.

To truly appreciate something, you must confine yourself to it. There's certain level of joy and meaning that you reach in life only when you've spent decades investing in a single relationship , a single craft , a single career . And you cannot achieve those decades of investment without rejecting the alternatives.Rejection

The act of choosing a value for yourself requires rejecting alternatives values.

If you are choosing to judge youself  based on your ability to have open and accepting friendships , that means you are rejecting trashing your friends behind their backs. These are all healthy decisions , yet they require rejection at every turn.

That rejection is an inherent and necessary part of maintaining our values, and therefore our identity. We are defined by what we choose to reject. And if we reject nothing we essentially have no identity at all.

The desire to avoid rejection at all costs , to avoid confrontation and conflict , the desire to attempt to accept everything equally and to make everything cohere and harmonize , Is a deep and subtle form of entitlement . 

Entitled people , because they feel as though they deserve to feel great all the time, avoid rejecting anything because doing so might make them or someone  else feel bad. And because they refuse to reject anything , they live a valueless, pleasure driven , and self absorbed life. All they give a fuck about is substaining the high a little bit longer , to avoid the inevitable failure of their life , to pretend the suffering away.

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Rejection is an important and crucial life skill . Nobody wants to be stuck in a relationship that isn't makeing them happy .nobody wants to be stuck in a business doing work they hate and don't believe in.

Nobody wants to feel that they can't say what they really mean .

Yet people choose these things. All the time.

Honesty is a natural human craving. But part of having honesty in our lives is becoming comfortable with saying and hearing the word "no" . In this way , rejection actually makes our relationships better and out emotional lives healthier .

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